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Goodbye March

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I do not understand reality TV. Apparently there’s this new show about people jumping off diving boards? This is precisely why I live under a rock.

Anyway. Tomorrow is April, and April all about Husband and me. 🙂 Stay tuned tomorrow for resolutions.

*1.) Take care of your body
*2.) Eat whole, balanced, nutritious foods
3.) Support your family’s health
*4.) Clean, de-clutter, and increase usability
5.) Ease your mind
*6.) Move your body
*7.) Connect first, connect often
*8.) Be authentic
*9.) Lead with confidence
10.) Find a bubble
*11.) Apply SALVE
*12) Say yes
*13.) Find space for ritual
14.) Capture rhythm in nature
*15.) Cultivate a daily rhythm
*16.) Focus on food, sleep, and home
*17.) Find weekly, monthly, and yearly rhythms
*18.) Go with what works

I am still learning that rushing doesn’t usually get me anywhere.

I am thankful that J is healthy and happy.

Today was my mom’s last day here in Raleigh. Tomorrow, we will be back to just J and Mama during the day. At dinner tonight, J and Daddy broke into spontaneous dance, and Mimi caught it on camera. I have a feeling the video will be replayed many times throughout the years.

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Rhythm sandwiches

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Rhythm is still elusive to me.

I have honed in on family rhythms this month, but gradually and minimally. I still feel torn between a world of structure and a world that is in the moment and ever-changing. I suppose life is both, and I suppose it all has to do with that pesky word balance again. I also suppose it will take me much longer than a month to truly discover the unique way rhythm fits into my life. Sometimes I think I’ve already found what works for me, but I’m a questioner (it is both a strength and a serious downfall), and I can’t stop thinking about the what ifs. What if there’s a better way? Our rhythms just don’t seem quite right yet, and right is important.

Find space for ritual

I still want more ritual. Still searching for little ways to add ritual to our lives.

Capture rhythm in nature

I do this more than I realize. Today, I spent hours out in the garden getting our beds ready for spring planting and laying seeds. We also took a sunset walk tonight, and yesterday we talked about the full moon.

Cultivate a daily rhythm

When I began writing my rituals for this month, I didn’t realize that this would be the biggie. Much of March has been spent cultivating daily rhythm. Like I said, I have learned to love rhythm sandwiches.

Focus on food, sleep, and home

In my mind, these are the most important subjects to focus on when thinking about rhythm. As it turns out, I focus on them naturally, so the resolution might have been a bit redundant. I still think it’s important to remember though.

Find weekly, monthly, and yearly rhythms

I picked a nice month for this resolution, because we were able to incorporate a bit of Passover and Spring Equinox into the mix. I have also noticed all the little monthly and weekly rhythms we have – Sunday cookathons, Friday night Shabbat dinner, pancakes on Saturday mornings, preparing the blackboard calendar for the month, and writing this month-end blog entry!

Go with what works

It’s just nice to be reminded of this. Rhythm is only rhythm if it works.

Tonight, I’m excited for another changing of the months and another set of resolutions. I’ve noticed that toward the end of each month, I tend to stray a little and lose focus. A fresh start is just what I need right now.

*1.) Take care of your body
*2.) Eat whole, balanced, nutritious foods
*3.) Support your family’s health
*4.) Clean, de-clutter, and increase usability
*5.) Ease your mind
6.) Move your body
7.) Connect first, connect often
*8.) Be authentic
9.) Lead with confidence
*10.) Find a bubble
*11.) Apply SALVE
12) Say yes
13.) Find space for ritual
*14.) Capture rhythm in nature
15.) Cultivate a daily rhythm
*16.) Focus on food, sleep, and home
*17.) Find weekly, monthly, and yearly rhythms
*18.) Go with what works

I have learned that I lose my focus (Happiness Project-wise) toward the end of each month.

I am thankful that I was able to accomplish a lot in the garden today.

This evening, J, Husband, Mimi, and I took the dogs on a sunset walk to Escazu (our local artisan chocolate shop). We all had such a lovely time, and J asked me to carry him most of the way. He hardly ever does that anymore, but I usually bring the sling with me just in case. I love to wear him while we walk, and it’s something I miss now that he wants to walk on his own most of the time. I carried him most of the way there, and all of the way back.

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The end of March

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I think there must be some kind of developmental change that happens when a child reaches two and a half, because J has been full of whines, tears, and restlessness this week. Perhaps there’s something bothering him, but whatever the reason, mothering has taken some serious extra energy these days. Last night, J was very upset because he REALLY wanted to drive the Corolla to Africa. Poor kid.

(As I’m writing this, I’m realizing that (like always) the issue is (of course) most likely with me and not him. Hmm… Perhaps Mimi’s presence has encouraged me to take too much of a step back. J loves spending time with his Mimi, but maybe I’ve been taking advantage of that. From now on, I will be aware of this and try harder to connect with him more frequently and fully. Don’t you love it when I work things out right here in front of you? Ha. Perhaps it’s uninteresting to all but me. Either way, it sure helps me grow.)

Well, it’s basically the end of March now, and I’m beginning to reflect upon my experiments with rhythm. I think I have a nice rhythm sandwich happening daily, and I’ve decided that’s enough for me. Our mornings are rhythmic, and our bedtime sequence is rhythmic. The rest is really up for grabs. Although, my time during J’s nap has become fairly ritualistic – I put him to sleep, sneak some ozonated olive oil onto his front teeth, drop and do a hundred (Pilates style), then meditate and either write a blog, hang out with my Mama, or catch up on some work. Nothing fancy, but it suits me. As for my other resolutions this month, I am a tad disappointed. I really haven’t spent much time on finding rhythm in nature or creating new awesome rituals. Yet again, I am called to embrace imperfection. I have been going with what works.

Next month is all about Husband and me, and I’m excited to hone in on our (joint) resolutions this weekend before April begins. If you have any suggestions for what to focus on, I would more than welcome them! It’s hard to believe I am already 25% of the way through with my Happiness Project! I hope the last 75% will be as great as these first months have been. I’ve been tweaking my remaining month’s focuses, and I’m really looking forward to the rest of the year. I have to keep reminding myself that I don’t have to do everything this year. I always have next year to finish what I left out. And the year after that. And the year after that. And the year after that…

*1.) Take care of your body
2.) Eat whole, balanced, nutritious foods
*3.) Support your family’s health
*4.) Clean, de-clutter, and increase usability
*5.) Ease your mind
*6.) Move your body
*7.) Connect first, connect often
*8.) Be authentic
*9.) Lead with confidence
*10.) Find a bubble
*11.) Apply SALVE
*12) Say yes
*13.) Find space for ritual
*14.) Capture rhythm in nature
*15.) Cultivate a daily rhythm
*16.) Focus on food, sleep, and home
*17.) Find weekly, monthly, and yearly rhythms
*18.) Go with what works

I have learned that life actually is better when I follow my resolutions.

I am thankful for backyard fires and vegan marshmallows.

This week, J is convinced that if we add another baby to our family, said baby will grow in his belly. Gotta love it. :)… The weather was amazing today, and we spent most of the day outside, eating, gardening, biking, and roasting marshmallows!

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TED Thursday

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I have another TED talk for you today –

Shane Koyczan – “To This Day” … For the Bullied and the Beautiful

I love spoken word. It makes me want to write more often. Really write. Not just post TED talks. 😉

*1.) Take care of your body
2.) Eat whole, balanced, nutritious foods
*3.) Support your family’s health
4.) Clean, de-clutter, and increase usability
*5.) Ease your mind
6.) Move your body
*7.) Connect first, connect often
*8.) Be authentic
*9.) Lead with confidence
10.) Find a bubble
*11.) Apply SALVE
12) Say yes
*13.) Find space for ritual
14.) Capture rhythm in nature
*15.) Cultivate a daily rhythm
*16.) Focus on food, sleep, and home
17.) Find weekly, monthly, and yearly rhythms
*18.) Go with what works

Life seems to be teaching me that rhythm with a two year old is ever-changing.

I am thankful for moments of clarity, as well as moments of questioning.

Tonight, after quite an off-day, J decided he wanted to Facetime his Nana. I had no idea how much fun he would have riding his scooter for her and watching her walk around her apartment, showing him pictures of his family. It makes me wish I could capture that grandmotherly vibe. It seems like grandmas are great at giving undivided attention. I get easily side-tracked these days.

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Spring is in the yard

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Dancing makes me happy.

I am thoroughly enjoying the chance to create again, and my hour and a half rehearsals refresh me in a big way. Now that I have made it through the busy weekend, I feel more confident that the little bit of dance I’m doing is the right amount of designated time for me.

Today, we began to build our backyard sandbox (pictured above!). I had planned to tend to the garden, but I couldn’t turn down the chance to snag some free wood. I have been envisioning this sandbox for months, and I’m finally getting to turn my vision into a reality. Now that spring is in the air, I am so excited about creating a usable, beautiful outdoor space. The garden will thrive. J will have a massive (and gorgeous) sandbox, as well as a teepee, and hopefully a hammock and a wheelbarrow. I want an umbrella for our deck. And we already have a fire pit. Toss in a few more chairs, and I think we’ll never want to go inside. I’m even hoping to invite a bat family to live in a home above our shed in hopes that they will keep the mosquitos at bay.

Spring is awesome. And I never thought I would love putting so much time, love, and energy into a home, but I do. I get so much joy from creating a warm, inviting, personalized space. I just wish more people would come join us in it. 🙂 Mimi is still visiting (she’s been here a week!), and I’m getting really used to her presence. I always have a rough time transitioning from small, brief, tribe back to just Mama and J most of the day. Don’t get me wrong, I love my Mama/J time (and I’m actually getting surprisingly, and sometimes scarily, used to isolation), but we all know how much I pine for a tribe. So, come visit me! Consider this an open invitation. We have a great little guest room, and I cook three meals a day. 🙂

*1.) Take care of your body
*2.) Eat whole, balanced, nutritious foods
*3.) Support your family’s health
*4.) Clean, de-clutter, and increase usability
*5.) Ease your mind
*6.) Move your body
*7.) Connect first, connect often
*8.) Be authentic
*9.) Lead with confidence
*10.) Find a bubble
*11.) Apply SALVE
*12) Say yes
*13.) Find space for ritual
14.) Capture rhythm in nature
*15.) Cultivate a daily rhythm
*16.) Focus on food, sleep, and home
17.) Find weekly, monthly, and yearly rhythms
*18.) Go with what works

I am re-learning that dance is an essential part of my being.

I am thankful that Mimi has decided to stay a few more days!

J has had a tough time falling asleep at night these days, and tonight he didn’t close his eyes until nearly 10:00. Most of the time, I’m not too bothered, but tonight I was pretty hungry! We ended up getting out of bed for a while before he fell asleep. Also, our neighborhood handy man came over today to help us build the sandbox, and he brought a post hole digger. You’d have thought he had brought a lion, because J was in absolute hysterics over the odd machine. 😦 Poor love.

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Chasing tails

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Today has been one of those days where I feel like I’ve just been chasing my tail all day. Every now and then I go to a place where everything seems backwards, and I feel like I need to escape or make a huge change. If I was slightly less mentally stable (or a little more free, depending on how you look at it), I suppose this would be the place where I fly to China on a whim, or quit my job, or move to Belize. Fortunately (or unfortunately), I happen to be pretty grounded these days, even in my spiraling moments, so my version of “doing something crazy and different” today was going on a date with Husband. 🙂

During our date, we talked about our April partnership resolutions, and I’m really excited to be focusing a whole month on reconnecting with my love. The goal is a stronger, more connected, happier relationship. I mean, who doesn’t want that?

As far as March goes, my rhythm is still a little wonky. I will refocus and reflect some tomorrow, so stay tuned.

*1.) Take care of your body
2.) Eat whole, balanced, nutritious foods
*3.) Support your family’s health
*4.) Clean, de-clutter, and increase usability
*5.) Ease your mind
*6.) Move your body
*7.) Connect first, connect often
*8.) Be authentic
9.) Lead with confidence
*10.) Find a bubble
*11.) Apply SALVE
12) Say yes
*13.) Find space for ritual
14.) Capture rhythm in nature
*15.) Cultivate a daily rhythm
*16.) Focus on food, sleep, and home
17.) Find weekly, monthly, and yearly rhythms
*18.) Go with what works

I am learning that a little time to recharge goes a long way.

I am thankful for dates with my hubby!

Tonight, J and I got into a hysterical shared laughing fit over a light switch before bed. I absolutely love those moments of connection with him, when we are truly experiencing life in harmony.

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Soup and Seders

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Some nights I would give ANYTHING to be able to go to sleep with J. I always get up… Even if I’m exhausted. I have to put on his just-in-case diaper, sneak black walnut powder onto his teeth, write this blog, brush my teeth, etc.

I am so tired tonight. We hosted a seder in addition to soup, and even with an amazing amount of help from my Mama, I am zonked.

Zzzzzzzz…..

1.) Take care of your body
2.) Eat whole, balanced, nutritious foods
3.) Support your family’s health
*4.) Clean, de-clutter, and increase usability
*5.) Ease your mind
6.) Move your body
7.) Connect first, connect often
*8.) Be authentic
9.) Lead with confidence
*10.) Find a bubble
*11.) Apply SALVE
12) Say yes
*13.) Find space for ritual
14.) Capture rhythm in nature
*15.) Cultivate a daily rhythm
*16.) Focus on food, sleep, and home
*17.) Find weekly, monthly, and yearly rhythms
*18.) Go with what works

I have learned that I am doing too much.

I am thankful that my hubby is back home.

Tonight, at our seder, J loved hearing us sing “dayenu”, even if he wasn’t find of the rest.

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